I can't stop.........

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Registered: 03-31-2004
I can't stop.........
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Tue, 08-28-2007 - 9:10pm
Hi Everyone,
I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years now. To make a long story short. He as asked for some space because of the stress that he is under. Well I respect that, but I of course CAN NOT handle it. We would talk on the phone so much each and everyday because we can't see each other and it wasn't a problem for us being on the phone like that. My problem is now that he wants his space he doesn't even call me at all and that really really hurts me bad. I try to keep myself busy, but it doesn't matter what I do I can't stop thinking about him and I constantly WANT to pick up the phone and call him, but I know that will push him away.
I know this might be a stuipid question but How can I control myself from not calling him?
and Would writing him a letter about my feelings for him be the wrong thing to do?
Thanks
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Registered: 08-14-2007
Tue, 08-28-2007 - 10:09pm

When you get the urge to call him, call a friend! Talk to some of your friends and family to ask for this help to call them instead when you get the urge to call him.

So somewhere by yourself or with a friend or family member and leave your cell phone home, if you have one, home!!! Start a journal of all your feelings. Cook something (of course I'd say that!) to get your mind even a tiny bit off of him.

I can't believe he said that after 4 years. I'm sorry but I can understand one year, but 4???

I;m sorry you're going through this.
Bug hugs!!

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-31-2004
Tue, 08-28-2007 - 10:15pm
Thank you for responding...yeah that's a good idea to write stuff down daily...
yeah I cooked a heck of alot over the weekened....thanks again
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Registered: 06-05-2007
Tue, 08-28-2007 - 10:24pm

it truely is heartless when someone changes on a dime like that. there are lots of people out there that do this. it is all about being selfish....doing what you think is right for you and not caring about who you have to hurt or how bad you do hurt them to get what they want for themselve.

when you start journaling....figure out why you want to be with someone so selfish.

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Registered: 08-14-2007
Tue, 08-28-2007 - 10:45pm

Yes, yes, I do agree with Leavehimnow.

But can I make a suggestions about journaling?
When you start journaling, don't think........ Just write!!!! Anything that comes to your mind whether it makes sense writing it down or not. It doesn't have to be perfect english or complete sentences or even spelled correctly. write, write, write write. Anything. You WILL cry, but who cares!!! Write.

You'll figure everything out in your own time. When you start to read what you wrote before today, tommorrow, next week, next month, you will SEE the answers. Write about your past, present and what you hope for the future. Anything you're thinking.

Has anyone ever READ the color purple? Perfect journaling example, in my opinion only of course.

Do not subconsciously/consciously leave your journal where he can find it.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-05-2007
Tue, 08-28-2007 - 11:43pm

Welcome to the baord lor02,


Consider this:


When he asks for space (aka, "a break")