I can't stop cheating!!

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Registered: 10-02-2008
I can't stop cheating!!
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Thu, 10-02-2008 - 8:49pm

I am in a relationship with the loveliest guy I've ever met but he doesn't know that I cheat on him almost every opportunity I get.... I've known this

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Registered: 04-12-2006
Thu, 10-02-2008 - 9:37pm
Your message is confusing, are you back with the abusive guy or the "john" guy?? if you cant be honest about it and you are not happy being faithful then maybe you are just not a commitment person. why do you have to be committed to anyone?? i mean what is your defination of "making it work"??? is that making him think you are committed but then cheating. if you need variety then have some, but dont lead some one else into a lie of a relationship. also please use protection when with all these men, alot of men can carry STDs and it doesnt effect their health, however it can be devistating to a womans body...good luck
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Registered: 02-05-2007
Thu, 10-02-2008 - 10:04pm

Welcome to the board lost.n.love,


I would recommend you find a good counselor and figure yourself out.

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Registered: 01-24-2007
Fri, 10-03-2008 - 7:28am

Dont for one second think you can't get caught. Cheaters tend to get sloppy, especially when they think they are not going to get caught. If/when you do, the pain you cause him (and yourself) will be something you can't even envision right now.

You should seek some counseling, your behavior is a form of addiction and you may have committment issues as well. None of this can be solved with the "right" guy coming along, or on your own. The hardest part is admitting there is a problem, and you have admitted that. Take the next step

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Registered: 08-30-2008
Fri, 10-03-2008 - 4:23pm
I think you are with the wrong person - eventhough you say you care...the bottom line is that you wouldnt cheat if he really meant anything to you (youwouldnt risk losing him) and if he were "right" for you.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 10-03-2008 - 6:40pm

It sounds to me as though you have a sex addiction and this should be addressed and handled with a professional. I strongly urge you to find a good therapist who is experienced in this area. You are in the grip of a compulsion and this compulsion can create many painful consequences in your life and in the life of your boyfriend. Along with it, there is lying, cheating, and many other ways in which your boyfriend will feel disrespected, and in which you are also disrespecting yourself. Again, this needs to be handled in person, with a professional therapist.


Best wishes,