I can't stop hurting
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I can't stop hurting
| Thu, 05-06-2004 - 7:06am |
My husband just informed me that he doesn't know if he still wants to be married to me and he confessed to having a brief affair. We have been drifting apart for the last two years. We stopped talking, we stopped doing fun stuff together, we just stopped being there for each other. To top things off I am 8 weeks pregnant. I want to use this as a huge wakeup call and make the marriage work but he doesn't know if he wants to. We have an appointment with a marriage counselor next week. But if he doesn't want to try what good will it do? I can't stop crying and feeling depressed. I have lost 5 lbs in the last three days and can't sleep. This is not good for the baby but I can't help it. How do I cope if my marriage is over and I am going to be a single parent. My husband is a good man and won't abandon his child or the responsibilities that go along with that. He just wants to abandon me. Help.

Jennifer
"Oh, that you would bless me indeed, and enlarge my territory, that Your hand would be with me, and that You would keep me from evi
huge hugs to you! as hard as is it for you -please try to calm down and relax, and make sure you get some nourishment into you! your baby's wellbeing is at stake here, and whatever happens in your life - its not worth your little precious baby's life....
glad to hear that you have an appointment for a counselor and that your husband will go with you. therapy is not 'magic' and you will both have alot of work to do - to talk and to listen to each other, but its REALLY a good thing.
and if you do end up a single parent? trust me, there are worse things that could happen in life. i understand this is not what you wanted, but sometimes things happen and we need to deal with them
good luck and keep us posted
*ezizabef*
God said you are my miracle, you are strong, capable, intelligent and full of gifts and talents. Do not be afraid of a new life. Never regreat or hurt. Never complain. How can you be afraid if you are my miracle.You are unique. No body is like you. Its only in you to accept the way to happiness please confront it and contiue towards the future. I made you free. You have the power over all the things.I gave you the power to think, to love, to determine, to smile, to imagine, to create, to plan, to pray, and i gave you power of election. I gave you the domein to choose your own destiny. What have you done with that power? you don't care. From now on forget the past and use the knowledge to decide. Choose to love instead of hate, to smile instead of cry, to create instead of break, to live instead of die. I am by your side always and waiting for you to love you. Forget about the feeling of weakness and learn to live the moment. Each time you live without me will a loss of peace. Do never forget that you are my miracle and i gave you your life. Change your feelings for good and be optimistic without been scared......Why? Because I am always by your side. God Bless you.
I know I have really messed up. I didn't know how to be a wife. I never knew what people said when they said you have to work at a marriage. I thought things would just coast along. I didn't realize you had to work at is every single day. I look back at all the stupid things I did, its no wonder we are where we are. Why did we stop talking and being each others best friends? How do you let this happen with someone you love?