I can't trust him again! advice needed.
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I can't trust him again! advice needed.
| Wed, 07-25-2007 - 12:06pm |
When my husband and I were engaged, he had a one time fling with a co worker. I had come home to stop their actions. They claim there was no sex but I'm not sure. Many years had gone by and both had moved onto new jobs. Two years down the road we eventually married. (she was all ready married) We have a great relationship and have re built our trust. Lately I have noticed that a website that I was helping him with, his password was changed. He gave me a song and dance about how he wanted to figure it out on his own. Our sex life had really diminished over the last two months to next to nothing. We both work opposite shifts, but he has no desire for it. One night I looked into his email becasue he didn't sign off and there was a message from that woman telling him to have a great weekend. I was furious and besides myself. I did write to her and told her she had no morals and no right to be speaking to him again. She apologized and said she ran into him at one of his job sites and he told her it was okay for them to say hi and bye once in a while that there were no issues. He knows that even the sound of her name will set me off into a depression and tears me up inside. How can I trust him anymore? Why does he want to talk to her again? Who is telling me the truth? I have yet to bring this up to my husband, and am awaiting to see if they speak again and if she tells him that I spoke to him. I recently went onto her myspace page (that's how they were messaging) and noticed that she deleted her own husbands link to his page from her friends list. I just think that it is odd. She may be paranoid that I would contact the husband cuz he doesn't know about the first time. I would appreciate any advice! Thank you for letting me vent!

Welcome to the board ames4646,
You need to talk to your husband. Tell him what you found and ask him what is going on. Don't tell him that you talked to her. Wait and see what he says first.
Also ask him to go to marriage counseling with you to help rebuild your trust.
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