I cheated.....now what?

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-20-2007
I cheated.....now what?
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Tue, 11-20-2007 - 9:44am

Hello Dr., here is a summary of my situation.


iVillage Member
Registered: 02-20-2007
Tue, 11-20-2007 - 11:37am

"I think it would be important for you to know that my dad cheated on my mom when I was 15."

Well, not really. Because it doesn't justify what you did; you're an adult responsible for your own actions. Cheating is not hereditary.

There's one thing I think you should understand... Wanting to be with other people is not something that you "fix". It's not an illness or an addiction. It's your mind's way of saying either "this girl is not fulfilling me" or "I'm not ready for a monogamous relationship at this point in my life". Neither of those thoughts are wrong, and for college age people they're both very common and normal. You need to address the ROOT of the cause and either find someone else, or date casually. Staying with this girl is not the answer. At best, you'll fool yourself into thinking that she's the only one for you and force yourself not to be interested in other people, but you'll still have that nagging inside of you. At worst, you'll cheat on her again and she'll break up with you.

I think you really need to let this girl go and have more life experiences before you convince yourself that you need to find "the one".

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-05-2007
Tue, 11-20-2007 - 1:19pm

Welcome to the board anotheridiotmale,


I agree that 'cheating' is not inherited.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-30-2005
Tue, 11-20-2007 - 3:00pm

Welcome to the board anotheridiotmale,


It is often said that actions speak louder than words. Look at what your actions are saying to her.


If you want to be with other women, than you aren't ready to be in a commited relationship. Fulfill your needs and then look for a serious relationship.

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