i complain all the time

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-07-2006
i complain all the time
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Fri, 12-26-2008 - 8:30am

I must stop compaining before it is too late.I just find some things really annoying.

For example one month before my birthday he took me to a shop and had me try on a dress and told me that this will be his gift.All month he was telling me that the dress looked great on me and that he will buy it for me.But at my birthday he didn't give me a gift just flowers and told me that he will bring my gift another day .Then he started asking me if I would like lingerie,books etc anything but the dress.In the end he told me that he had no money to buy me that dress.I was disappointed because he has a salary and he could have bought me that dress .In that month I bought him some clothes that had the same price with the dress even though I don't work - I just saved money for him even though it was difficult.

I was disppointed..I had talked about the dress to my friends , even to my mother..
It is not about the money,nor the gift..I was disappointed because he was telling me all the time about it and in the end he didn't act like a man who keeps his word .He now seems cheap to me..

We talked about it but I didn't say that I was disappointed.He told me that it is not nice to show I want the dress and not another present and I told him that I have no problem whatever he takes me but he was telling me all month about it even though I never asked for it.

After this ,every mistake he does makes me angry and I complain all the time.
I feel that I become tiring but I can't help it.Should I hide my emotions?

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iVillage Member
Registered: 11-13-2008
Fri, 12-26-2008 - 5:08pm
Then do what YOU feel is right and don't let him talk you into believing this is your problem.
iVillage Member
Registered: 08-30-2008
Fri, 12-26-2008 - 10:11pm
I would be annoyed too if I were you.
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-02-2009
Sat, 01-03-2009 - 7:18pm

I'm in an exact same boat this girl is in. My bf was going to get me something for christmas, was gonna take me to this restaurant for my bday (my bday is real close to christmas) but nothing happened. I understand he doesn't have $

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-05-2007
Sat, 01-03-2009 - 11:53pm

Welcome to the board bluerain2009,


Sounds like the relationship you are

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-13-2008
Sun, 01-04-2009 - 9:46am

You're taking a lot of crap from a deadbeat who is using you. Wake up girl! You are just a "resource" to this guy. Sure it's possible he has feelings for you, but you're a convenience to him and in his mind he owes you nothing. I hope your desire to be in a happy, equal, generous relationship eventually eclipses your strange need to be with this particular guy. I don't get it. He lives paycheck to paycheck, spending one and waiting to spend the next. He is a Grade A Loser, don't be his personal ATM, he'll drag you down too. I have serious doubts you'll ever see that $40 again. Clearly he has better things to spend his money on than paying you back.

DUMP HIM NOW

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-02-2009
Sun, 01-04-2009 - 4:06pm

Thanks for your advise. You should look at my original discussion that i started - "why guys are all like that". I wasn't even looking for nobody when i bumped into him. i just have bad luck.......

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