But I do Care

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Registered: 11-12-2007
But I do Care
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Mon, 11-12-2007 - 8:26am
Been seeing a man for 5 months. Just seems to have a closed heart, and frankly I am worn out trying to open it up. My question is why is it every time I simply say, I miss you, or something to the effect of caring for him, his reply is always , "You don't care about me" I am tired of beating my head against a wall to figure this out, and really becoming discouraged. Should I just throw my hands up?
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Registered: 09-30-2005
Mon, 11-12-2007 - 11:19am

Welcome to the board stillyoungatheart,


It sounds to me like either he has self esteem issues or he wants you to tell him that you do care about him and explain your feelings.

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Registered: 12-27-2004
Mon, 11-12-2007 - 12:02pm
The cause for his behavior is less important the behavior itself.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 11-12-2007 - 1:13pm

Have you asked him why he says this?


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Registered: 02-05-2007
Mon, 11-12-2007 - 2:45pm

Welcome to the board stillyoungatheart,


5 months? This is not a good sign. You can save him, fix him or help him.

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Registered: 02-20-2007
Mon, 11-12-2007 - 3:06pm
I agree that is kind of troubling. What I want to know is, does he act insecure or moody in general or is it only when you say things like this? Does he sound as though he seriously believes you don't care about him, or could it possibly be him trying to be playful?
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Registered: 11-12-2007
Tue, 11-13-2007 - 2:02am

Thank you for all the replies. Looks like I have my own soul searching to do. He came out of a bad divorce a year ago for what I understand, and looks like the aftermath is still lingering. I am a very loving and caring person and without a doubt a person would feel this, but in his case, looks like he has some work to do.