While I understand the desire to be in a loving relationship, I do not understand the process of trying to force yourself to be open to people that you have 'lukewarm' feelings for.
Reading material to consider:
Are You The One For Me? Barbara DeAngelis
Do Not Talk To, Touch, Marry, or Otherwise Fiddle with Frogs, by Nailah Shami
While I agree with twinflame that you shouldn't FORCE yourself to keep hanging out with people you have lukewarm feelings for, I certainly think it is worth giving some of these guys a chance.
No offense, but it kind of seems like what you are complaining about is actually the whole point of dating.
It can be frustrating, but dating is basically a weeding out process to find who you are a) attracted to b) compatible with and c) have similar life goals/values with.
I don't think there's any problem with kissing someone to see if there's anything there. Sometimes you can be surprised, and there's no harm in kissing. However, I think if it leaves you feeling blah..what's the point of casually dating? You'd just be wasting time and leading him on.
Welcome to the board keek2007,
While I understand the desire to be in a loving relationship, I do not understand the process of trying to force yourself to be open to people that you have 'lukewarm' feelings for.
Reading material to consider:
Are You The One For Me? Barbara DeAngelis
Do Not Talk To, Touch, Marry, or Otherwise Fiddle with Frogs, by Nailah Shami
Hi Keek,
While I agree with twinflame that you shouldn't FORCE yourself to keep hanging out with people you have lukewarm feelings for, I certainly think it is worth giving some of these guys a chance.
No offense, but it kind of seems like what you are complaining about is actually the whole point of dating.
It can be frustrating, but dating is basically a weeding out process to find who you are a) attracted to b) compatible with and c) have similar life goals/values with.
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Janine -
Thank you for your response!
Hi,
I don't think there's any problem with kissing someone to see if there's anything there. Sometimes you can be surprised, and there's no harm in kissing. However, I think if it leaves you feeling blah..what's the point of casually dating? You'd just be wasting time and leading him on.
As for me, I live in NYC, so
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Hi Janine -
Thank you so much for sharing your wisdom!