i don't get men

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-09-2004
i don't get men
3
Thu, 09-09-2004 - 5:43pm
What is going on? I am in my early twenties and besides men I meet at bars no other guys seem interested. All the guys I meet at work or groups I am involved in cannot get past the friend level with me. I make guy friends quite easily but that is it. All the guys I know that would be interested in dating all act about the same around me. They tease me but in a good natured way and we joke around and they also push me around a lot. I am a bubbly person so I play around but I am starting to get frustrated when I like a guy and he treats me like his little sister pushing me around and stuff... Do I need to change my signals or what is the deal?
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 09-09-2004 - 5:55pm
lily031...

The last sentence in your post SAYS IT ALL!

If a man (or several men) are getting "weird vibes" from your behavior...they'll stay away! YOU might be one of the most charming women on this planet, but your 'charms' are being misinterpreted! Besides...what man wants to...err... "date his little sister?"

All together now ivillagers:

"LILY031 NEEDS A MAKEOVER!!!"

Pianoguy

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-05-2004
Thu, 09-09-2004 - 7:15pm
Hi Lily,

I usually agree with pianoguy (in fact 99% of the time) but I am wondering if perhaps you are treating all of the guys that are your friends and those you are interested in the same? If you joke and tease with them all, they probably see you as a buddy and might not even have a clue that you like them. We had a girl like that at work. She is very cute but friends with all the guys and none of the guys saw her as more than friends. She mentioned to me that she didn't understand why guys flirt with the rest of us but not her. I told her (because I know how she acts around the guys) that she doesn't treat them like date potentials but like buddies or big brothers and like pianoguy said, who wants to date their sister? She has since adjusted her attitude and I think the guys are coming around now. Just my $.02. I wish you luck. Lucy

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-26-2003
Thu, 09-09-2004 - 7:59pm

I agree.... sometimes, we subconciously set off these vibes, maybe they are thinking the same way you are!!


I would be more consious of what you say and do....with still being yourself. I know that sounds weird, but you could even make the first move and ask one out for a movie or drink.


Get more outgoing and broaden your horizons...and remember: If they dont see you for the awesome chick you are, they dont know what they are missing!


:)