I don't know what to do

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Registered: 12-31-1969
I don't know what to do
Wed, 09-19-2012 - 11:27am

Hi, my ex boyfriend wanted us to have another go at it and get back together. I still have feelings for him so said yes. I wasn't sure if he was just saying it so he could use me for sex so I tested him the other night. I sent a text to him saying that we could meet up that night for sex then go our seperate ways, he texted me back saying unfortunetely im going to have to turn you down because I don't want us to go our seperate ways. I said ok me neither and we met up for a drink and then went back to his for sex. He walked me home after we had a long talk and stuff and said i'l text you tomorrow. This was on monday and on tuesday he never texted me like he said he would. Its now wednesday and still no contact from him. Im tearing my hair out and upset because I offered him one night and he wanted more but now I don't know if I should contact him but don't want to appear desperate. Advice please.

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Registered: 10-03-2007
Wed, 09-19-2012 - 2:11pm
I figure he too just wanted to have sex but threw in the line . When emotions are involved , sex is better ,we all know it.Dont text him back and dont even respond him if he does.
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Registered: 06-07-2004
Wed, 09-19-2012 - 2:59pm
I think its weird to test people. Why couldn't you have gotten back together and just dated without intimacy for a while to see if he was serious? I question why did you even come up with this test anyway? Why would you think he would use you? Because he has done so in the past? He must have committed some pat transgressions?

He got what he wanted and now has no need to contact you. Don't contact him. I would wager if he contacts you again he will be wanting one thing.
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Registered: 12-27-2004
Sat, 09-22-2012 - 11:37pm

I think it means that he wants to be free to see other girls, but keep you on the back burner in case one of his romances doesn't work out.  Please don't put yourself through this--just move on.