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| Mon, 08-02-2004 - 11:18am |
1) We were going to church. I asked if I could ride in his car with him. He said, “No”. I thought he was kidding, so I laughed and walked towards his car anyway. He said, “I don’t want you in my car. Drive your own car!” I was shocked..this came out of nowhere. I said, “Ya know, I think I’m gonna go home. I’ll see ya later!” and I got into my own car to leave. He ran over and was like, “I’m just joking! Relax!” I told him jokes were meant to be funny, not mean.
2) We were at a friend’s house and I was playing with their 5 year old son. Our friend told my boyfriend, “I think she’s got a new boyfriend!” referring to the 5 year old boy and me. My boyfriend said, “That’s okay. I can find someone new, too!” I just ignored him so as not to make a scene.
Those are 2 examples of about 10 that I could list that happened within the last 24 hours. How do I deal with this? Whenever I try to state my case, he says “You’re too intense! Relax!” I feel like he should be LESS easygoing and take his actions and my reactions more seriously. Please…any advice here? Help! Thanks!

However, if that's not possible for you, then maybe the two of you are incompatible and you need to find someone who shares your sensitivity level. The guy I'm seeing now is also a joker and kind of sarcastic, and I have let him know that I am mostly ok with that, but that it's an issue for me because my ex-husband used humor and sarcasm as weapons in our marriage. So when he goes too far, I let him know (and he respects that and backs off because I don't do this very often), but I also know that this is what he's like and I need to be ok with it in order for us to be together.
Sheri