I don't know what to do....
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I don't know what to do....
| Sat, 05-29-2004 - 3:05pm |
Hi, I have been in a relationship with this guy for almost a year. From the beginning we were together everyday, which was fine until about 8 months into the relationship where on several occasions I was asked by friends to do things with them and didn't get to because of him. We met through my step sister and at first he was the best thing to happen to me, but we have seperated several times and I always go back, and right now I am contemplating going back once again. I have only been away from him for a week and a half now, but I miss him like crazy. I don't want to lose him as a friend, but I am not sure how I feel otherwise. I always leave him for reasons I feel are legit and when I go back he says that things will change, but after a week or two old habits come back... I don't want to go back to him, but I do.... I am so confused and have virtually no one to talk to about it that hasn't already taken sides... PLEASE HELP!!!!

You can love someone and know that you can't be with them because of your (both of you)inability to have a healthy relationship.
And is it possible I can have a healthy relationship, but the person I am with isn't able to?!? Do you think there is any way to make this relationship healthy or is it a lost cause?!?
Cut him loose gently and then step back. Give both of you time to get over it. In time maybe you can be friends.
Tell him the obvious-you two have had so many ups and downs, so many breakups that you don't want to stay in the relationship and hopefully you can be friends.
'And is it possible I can have a healthy relationship, but the person I am with isn't able to?!?'
It is possible but I don't know anything about you. Look at your history with men. Have yoru relationships been healthy? Have you been attraacted to the same type of guy? Are there issues that always come up for you like poor communication, jealousy, infedelity, etc??
-amy- "CL-fiesty"