I don't know what to do

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Registered: 04-06-2004
I don't know what to do
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Tue, 04-06-2004 - 12:24am
i've been going through a lot in my personal life..i have a lot of issues about betrayal. i've been with my boyfriend for almost a year and a half. i told him the other day that i didn't know if i can handle a relationship anymore. Because lately i've just been thinking ALOT about the future, are we gonna last, is he gonna get his life together with his career, and all of these things. I've subconsciously been thinking that my relationship with him is one of my problems. But i think i might be tying my personal problems in with my relationship. I am confused and I don't know what to do. I've talked to my parents and they said that i've just been too hard on myself and i shouldn't worry about what's gonna happen and just let things happen in its natural course. my boyfriend has been everything to me. He has been there for me and he would do anything for me and i can't seem to figure out why i am pushing him away. he just said that i need more time to concentrate on myself and school. But i still told him that maybe i can't handle a relationship. he said that we're gonna give it space. i work with him so that's sort of hard. he said that this doesn't change the way he feels about me and he will be there for me and we will get through this hopefully together. i feel like i am torturing myself and that it shouldn't have to be this way. i don't know what to do. i just know that i love him.
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Registered: 09-26-2003
Tue, 04-06-2004 - 12:43pm

It seems as though you are with him so much (work, etc.) that you have forgotten how to be yourself without him...You cannot possibly expect to make anyone happy if you are not happy yourself first.


You need to have some space, get to know yourself again.hang with freinds..just find yourself. No onew is doubting your love for each other, but but you both need to be strong individuals before you can be a strong team....


Good luck,