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I don't know what to do....
| Mon, 04-30-2007 - 12:45am |
thank you for all your help
Edited 5/1/2007 3:11 am ET by italiangirl2
Edited 5/1/2007 3:11 am ET by italiangirl2
| Mon, 04-30-2007 - 12:45am |
That passion and spark from when you first met is lust fuelled adrenaline. When you can't keep your hands off each other and think of each other constantly. Feels so great, doesn't it!!
But your friends are right, it does ease off. Your sex drive will lower to a more reasonable level and the mad passion turns into a deeper feeling of love.
But you also have to watch the relationship for signs of it simply being passed it's use by date. If you still love each other, don't fight, enjoy each other's company and mostly desire sex then you're OK. But if you're fighting, getting bored and never want sex, it's time to move on.
Lastly, I would warn you to not be talking about marriage at this early stage. Due to your line of questioning, I'm assuming this is your first long term relationship. And because it's your first long term relationship, I'm assuming your either young and/or inexperienced at relationships. You will find that as you gain experience at relationships, you'll learn a lot about yourself and what you need in a relationship. What feels good for you at 20 is so wrong at 30. I'm 40 and barely recognise myself as a 20 year old.
I'm not criticising you. Nor am I telling you NOT to marry him. I'm just warning that you're likely to learn and grow - and to make allowances for this. Don't rush into anything.
Hi italiangirl2,
While it's normal for the passion to wane a little, there are ways to bring it back.