I don't know whats happening

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Registered: 11-28-2007
I don't know whats happening
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Wed, 11-28-2007 - 1:07am

I really have no one to talk to. My husband is overly critical and my Mom is overly critical of my husband and WAY too biased for me. Nice maybe, but not too helpful.


I am beginning to thing that I have emotional tourettes. I can't deal with conflict, but when I'm angry it comes out in weird ways. I ruined a perfectly good day yesterday by saying something that was just stupid. All because I haven't really gotten through to my husband about how I feel.


The back story:


When my relatives were visiting I apparently did not pay enough attention to my husband. I understand that, I know my relatives are not his favorite people. They're loud and tend to treat me and by extension him as the teenagers we used to be. But I felt that he was overly

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 11-28-2007 - 12:22pm

I really think that you two need marriage counseling. You need an unbiased counselor who will allow you to be heard, and who will keep him from bullying you. Counseling will also teach you both effective ways to communicate with each other. You should also get individual counseling so that you can learn to deal with conflict appropriately.

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Wed, 11-28-2007 - 12:53pm

Welcome to the board confusednanxious,


Charite_99 gave you excellent advice.

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Registered: 09-30-2005
Wed, 11-28-2007 - 1:40pm

Welcome to the board confusednanxious,


I agree with the previous posters. Marriage counseling and individual counseling would be really helpful for you. I would also look at the link for the Ten Rules for Fighting Fair.


Best of luck to you.

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