I don't think I should have apologized..
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I don't think I should have apologized..
| Wed, 12-19-2007 - 9:23am |
Dr. Shoshanna,
I didn't see your reply to my other topic of 'How To Deal with a Scrooge' so I ended up apologizing to my husband for not understanding him and that if he doesn't like something he should be able to express himself without me getting mad at him and blaming him for ruining the spirit of Christmas for us.

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Here's the link to your previous thread. Dr. Shoshanna's response is #7.
http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/message.asp?webtag=iv-rlrelationsh&msg=29994.1&ctx=512
edited to correct a typo
Edited 12/19/2007 1:46 pm ET by geoteo
My initial reaction was... your husband is acting like a spoiled brat.
All this sounds very familiar to me,
And the
He doesn't have to go see anyone or get a diagnosis.
Answers over email will not really help this situation. You are both in a destructive pattern and need professional help attending to it. You both need your own therapists and also someone eventually to deal with what is going on between you.
It's not a matter of someone else telling you what to do. That won't solve anything. What you need to do is to-get to know who you are, your behavior and his as well. You also need the on-going support that therapy will give. It takes time to understand how to deal with our reactions and how to become aware of them.
Get some professional guidance here and things will be much better for you.
Best wishes,
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