I don't think u canSEARIOUSLYsave this!

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-22-2004
I don't think u canSEARIOUSLYsave this!
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Wed, 09-22-2004 - 9:02pm
Now this situation is getting out of CONTROL!!!!

I need a helping hand! This has been going on for 1 year Now, I'm in a relationship with a Man whose MARRIED to another Women with twin boys who are 5 years old. I fell in love with him before I knew the situation. They've been married for "5" years. I've continued to be the other women even WHEN he told me 6 mon after we started seeing each other. He continues to pretend as if he dosen't have ne relations or even being intimate with her. But he says he needs me. I wonder why? why does he need both! WORST OF ALL BIG HUGE AGE DIFFERENCE!! I'M 18 & HE'S 32 WIFE'S 35!

KIDS KNOW ME AS JUST BIG COUSIN & THE BABYSITTER! I'M ALWAYS AROUND! I WAS'NT THE BABYSITTER AND COUSIN UNTIL AFTER HE TOLD ME OF COURSE,IM TIRED AND I WANT OUT, OF COURSE ITS HARD KNOWING AND USED 2 THE FAMILY AND IN LOVE! THE GIST, IT'S VERY WRONG, AND IM TOO YOUNG FOR HIM AND TO BE INVOLVED IN ADULTRY! HEELLLPPPP!!!!!!!!!!! SAVE ME!
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-03-2004
Wed, 09-22-2004 - 10:55pm
I wish I could help you. Do you have family supports or anyone you feel like you could talk with about this? You are too young. The guy clearly has taken advantage of you. You need to find others who will support you emotionally. This guy sounds like he's taken a hold of you. Could you talk with a counselor? I don't know what your situation is but maybe you could just start hanging with friends to help you to forget him. I know it must be hard since you care about the family also. I'm sure you don't want to ruin his marriage but I can tell you that if I was his wife, I'd want to know. If it were me, I probably wouldn't blame you, but probably a lot of women would. It's just wrong what he's done to you. I wish I could say something truly helpful but just know that people care and I'm here when you need to talk. Take care.
iVillage Member
Registered: 08-04-2003
Thu, 09-23-2004 - 1:30am
You have to value yourself more than you do, know and believe you deserve a full-time, committed relationship, not some guy that's having his cake and eating it too.

::But he says he needs me. I wonder why? why does he need both!

Because being with you, makes his life at home more tolerable, makes him feel desirable, wanted, sexy and alive again. But as long as you are in his life, supporting his ego, he will continue with things as they are. YOU have to want more for you. Please work on your self-esteem, counseling through your church or school.


Carrie