I got to be crazy!

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Registered: 07-30-2008
I got to be crazy!
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Wed, 07-30-2008 - 2:33am

I have a boyfriend we've been dating for a year now and the longer we're together the more I feel like I'm about to lose what little mind I have left. We don't communicate

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Registered: 02-10-2004
Wed, 07-30-2008 - 7:35am

Hon, don't walk but RUN to the nearest exit!

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Registered: 06-19-2008
Wed, 07-30-2008 - 8:28am

Its he who needs help in sorting out his issues.

For your well-being,leave him.

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Registered: 02-20-2007
Wed, 07-30-2008 - 8:37am

I'm really sorry for all of your strife, shay. I want you to consider something though. This is not a GOOD RELATIONSHIP. It's not working. You're different people who can't relate to one another, communicate in a way that you're both good at, or understand one another on a comfortable level. On top of this he is irrationally jealous. Shay I have been irrationally jealous before (not as far as him), it's a terrible thing but when someone is that way there is NO way to reason with them. Of course your tactic of giving him a taste of his own medicine didn't work, a person in this mindset is NOT open to changing. He is so far gone in his accusations and jealousy that there is no happy way to deal with him for you. Nothing you say or do could appease him, there will always be something. You KNOW this is the truth. As long as you are with him he will make you miserable. You cannot fix him or appease him, he's a lost cause. But if you get out of this relationship now you can save yourself. He is a disaster, and you deserve to be treated well and trusted. You will never find happiness, trust and acceptance with this guy. Never, ever, ever. Your choices are to stick it out in a relationship that doesn't make you happy with a person who has given into mental illness.

I agree with the last poster. You should run for the hills.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 07-30-2008 - 9:45am

Some men are very possessive and controlling and it sounds as though you have one of them. This behavior can certainly wear a person down and also cause you to lose our sense of self, freedom and esteem. The relationship, as it is, is not healthy. You need to let him know who you are, what your boundaries are, what you need to do and not in the relationship. You also have to find a way to establish healthy, open communication. If you don't, or can't, there is no way to work through inevitable problems that arise. Even though you may love someone, if they are not available to work things through in a mature way, it is impossible for the relationship to thrive and for you to grow in it.


Take good care,

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Wed, 07-30-2008 - 11:51am

Welcome to the board shay1920,


I hope you will listen to the good advice you've already been given.