I hate being jealous

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Registered: 01-03-2004
I hate being jealous
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Sat, 01-03-2004 - 6:12am
I have been going out with a guy for 4 months now and just recently on a chat site we go on all the time these guys come up to me and tell me lies that he has slept with them while we have been seeing each other and I just flip even though about 20minutes later I realize they are lieing but still I believe them for the first 20. I also get Jealous if another guy even moves close to him...it is making me sick and he and I just recently had a fight because of all this chat room nonsence and the fact I run up to our 2 gf who he lives with and ask them who each guy is that even dares to hug him or sometimes even to talk to him. I have stopped going to the chat site but at the clubs and bars I can't just turn people off like online. He is getting ticked off because he and I totally agree with him, he doesn't deserve not to be trusted because he has done nothing wrong. I just wish I could learn how to stop being so untrusting and jealous.

we recently went to Toronto for new years and he had lived there a few years back and I just about made myself sick because I would get so jealous if he met someone he used to know and they would hug and I would just lose it internally and try to act normal , but it came to a point of of our gf snapped at me and we had a fight and just my inability to trust him is screw both of our lives up.

if anyone has any good advice it would be appriated .

thanks


Edited 1/3/2004 6:22:58 AM ET by pepsirulez

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 01-03-2004 - 8:12am
If you honestly HATE BEING JEALOUS....STOP THIS NONSENSE NOW!

YOU have to learn (and accept the fact) that most of us enjoy looking at, talking to and occasionally 'flirting' with a pretty woman. This DOESN'T mean we want to sleep with them, or abandon our wives or girlfriends.

Where in the world did you get the idea that your b/f was going to stop being sociable, friendly or courteous to a woman THE MOMENT YOU STARTED DATING HIM? This is a silly idea and the only occasion a "prince and princess" ride off into the sunset is in a fairytale!

So...one more time...if you honestly HATE BEING JEALOUS...start trusting your guy and stop torturing him! You're supposed to be HIS GIRLFRIEND...not HIS KEEPER!

Pianoguy