I have no one to discuss this with. Just got in contact with an ex.

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I have no one to discuss this with. Just got in contact with an ex.
Fri, 08-31-2012 - 12:49am

Hi everyone. I am new here. I was on facebook and an ex from many years ago contacted me. We have been talking for a few days here. He is married for 28 years now and I have been married for almost 20. We have been talking about all the fun we used to have. We split up over a mess up on my part. I apologized back then and we parted ways as friends. Well, we lived in 2 different states and still do. We never spoke again, til now. Tonights chat was great. Got some things out and he told me that if he would have stayed in the same state, we would be the ones married today and that he still loves me and he always will. I have never forgotten him, even after all these years. There is no chance of any affair. I know that. I just can't get him out of my head now. I want to continue to talk to him. I do still love him, but in a different way. I know you can't go back, I know you can't live on the "what ifs".  But it doesn't make it hurt less. He was always so good to me. I just want to cry. I know what is right, but I have no one that I can tell any of this to. No one would understand. I just want to cry.

Thanks for listening.

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Registered: 12-22-2007

Bobbyjo, I know how confused you must be feeling right now.   Those memories can be so powerful.

ukgirl made some really good points.   I just want to point out something else:  given that you're both married, the things he said to you have already significantly crossed the line.   If you're unsure of just how much, imagine your hubby saying this to an ex.

While you may not be intending an affair, I'm not so convinced that this guy's intentions are so innocent.

Take a deep breath...appreciate what you have... and back away from him.