I have ruined my life/others plse help

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-10-2008
I have ruined my life/others plse help
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Thu, 01-10-2008 - 11:46am

I am a married (happily) woman for the past 22 years.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-25-2003
Thu, 01-10-2008 - 12:12pm

Hi there loveless,


I am sorry for the pain you feel right now.


I think drinking is a bad habit for both of you.


I can understand why your husband would get upset, but

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-30-2005
Thu, 01-10-2008 - 12:41pm

Welcome to the board lovelessinohio,


First, I have to say that you were wrong to be drinking with an 18 yr old exchange student. Both you of could have gotten into serious trouble for this. Second, I don't think you should be with a man that is physically abusive to you. Third, I do think it would be best of you quit drinking.


If you could find a place that offers free or reduced fee counseling, I think it would be a very good idea to go.


Is your husband on any medications for his depression? Did he get any help after he tried to commit suicide?


iVillage Member
Registered: 01-10-2008
Thu, 01-10-2008 - 1:01pm

I feel that i have ruined things for everyone.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-10-2008
Thu, 01-10-2008 - 2:24pm

regarding the depression, no, he took medications many years ago when he was depressed after the birth of our first child (15 years ago)and it did nothing for him so he stopped.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 01-10-2008 - 6:47pm

For starters, it sounds as though you are married to a very disturbed man, with real impulse control problems, depression and as you describe it, distorted perceptions that are close to being paranoid.