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| Tue, 04-22-2008 - 4:38pm |
o.k everyone....i have been with my bf...going on 2 years in august..i love him very much but unfortunately he has a serious drinking problem.he doesn't drink until the weekend BUT its to get drunk.he has been doing this before i came into the relationship.I didn;t know the extreme of this until I got to spend a weekend with him..this was in dec of 2006...around christmas time.well for some reason I assumed that he wouldn't drink like that when he got his son(every other weekend)...i was so wrong.i've tried to talk to him about this...about how its not good drinking like this infront of his son...or not drink when he has his kid.of course he refused to listen to that reasoning....in our relationship...he has been telling me that he can't live with anyone.that in the past it hasn't worked out.
I'm not stupid...I know the reason that it never worked out...his drinking.he had wanted to move in with me but he was going back and forth on it because he was afraid that it wouldn't work out like the others....
well basically the real reason that he thought that it would be better for him to live on his own was because then no one would say anything about his drinking on the weekend.Before he moved in with me..he had been living with a relative of his for almost 2 years helping this person out with the rent.well that relative knew all about this before I even came into the relationship and i can't believe how he could

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Honestgirl31, your boyfriend is an alcoholic.
When you say he drinks to get drunk...how drunk are you talking about?
Welcome to the board honestgirl31,
Good luck if you do go through with the intervention. You might also want to try Al-Alnon meeting for yourself.
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to answer your question....it has been where he has hurt himself..causing huge bruises on his back side due to falling down drunk.I was not at this incident but he showed me when I came over later that weekend.He only drinks like this on the weekends....fri and sat nights.he doesn;t drink during the work week...he did tell me that he use to awhile back but now he doesn't.he's told me that he finds it easier to talk more or express things more to me,and it doesn numb him
Just to let you know what you said about your bf reminded me about my dad.My dad was an alcholic and when he went through rehab I asked him why he had started drinking again (he had been sober for over 10 years) and he said it has because he had met a woman and it was easier for him to talk to her when he had been drinking.
Would you bf be open to going to AA meeting?
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It's unfortunate to fall in love with an alcoholic.
Did you know that binge drinking is the worst kind of drinking because it causes physical harm to your liver and vital organs.
Love is not enough.....
My ex husband was like that he would come home after work on Friday and drink until he went to bed on Sunday, to this day 26 years later he is still doing the same thing, but now it is almost every day, it didn't matter that he wasn't falling down drunk, finally after 12 years I had enough, tired of seeing my children see their father like that, so I packed them up and left..One of the best decisions I ever made.
He has to first admit he has a problem, and want to get help with it, he is not doing that and nothing you do or say will change that.
Talk with him see where he stands, accept his decision, even if you don't agree with it, and decide if you want to stay with an alcoholic or have a better life for yourself. It is your choice, you control your life and actions. You have two choices, if he doesn't want to get help either accept him as is or get out.
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