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| Tue, 04-22-2008 - 4:38pm |
o.k everyone....i have been with my bf...going on 2 years in august..i love him very much but unfortunately he has a serious drinking problem.he doesn't drink until the weekend BUT its to get drunk.he has been doing this before i came into the relationship.I didn;t know the extreme of this until I got to spend a weekend with him..this was in dec of 2006...around christmas time.well for some reason I assumed that he wouldn't drink like that when he got his son(every other weekend)...i was so wrong.i've tried to talk to him about this...about how its not good drinking like this infront of his son...or not drink when he has his kid.of course he refused to listen to that reasoning....in our relationship...he has been telling me that he can't live with anyone.that in the past it hasn't worked out.
I'm not stupid...I know the reason that it never worked out...his drinking.he had wanted to move in with me but he was going back and forth on it because he was afraid that it wouldn't work out like the others....
well basically the real reason that he thought that it would be better for him to live on his own was because then no one would say anything about his drinking on the weekend.Before he moved in with me..he had been living with a relative of his for almost 2 years helping this person out with the rent.well that relative knew all about this before I even came into the relationship and i can't believe how he could

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I very much agree with you.
>>No one wants to be in a relationship with someone who just wants to get drunk every weekend?<<
Actually, you are wrong with this statement.
I'm sure some one has already said this to you but 'you can't fix him' . Trust me I am learning this the hard way myself. You can't make him work his issues out, go to counseling, or even cut back. He has to want to do this himself...... Which sucks because he doesn't sound like he does.
My BF has depression and suffers from some bad lows and as a result our relationship and I suffer badly. He withdraws and pushes me away because 'hey, after all I'm just going to leave him don't you know'. After a long struggle and a painful blow to our relationship I finally figured it out!!
He does want help and to live a happy life, but it's almost like he doesn't want to let himself. So he goes to counseling and holds back. One step forward 2 steps back!
However I now know that I have to give him the space to do this.
I'm sorry for you, I know it's hard
xxx
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