I just dont know what to do please help!

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Registered: 07-22-2008
I just dont know what to do please help!
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Tue, 07-29-2008 - 10:49pm

Ok, this has been really hard for me so i appreciate all your feedback and help about the situation im currently in!


The guy i was dating for a little over a month as of last week wanted "space" b/c he was confused about what to do and wasnt sure what he wanted, and so and so forth. So i gave him space, and we ended up talking friday afternoon, in person, about everything, and i told him he was free to go out with his friends, and do the things he wanted, but he still wasnt sure if he wanted to be "committed" to me, i guess he wasnt sure if he wanted to just sleep with me or others as well.....SOOOOO, that night he went out with his friends, and i stayed in because i didnt feel like going out...and so i get a text messge around 1:30 saying to come over his house in 45 mins...right there i shoulda been like no im busy or no im not ur booty call, but of course im an idiot and went anyway, and of course we had sex and i thought things would be

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Registered: 08-21-2005
Tue, 07-29-2008 - 11:53pm

As hard as it is to hear, I think you have to let him go.

He said ". You're an amazing girl im just not sure that you're for me, and i dont think you're the kind of girl that can give me my space, and we obviously cant date casually b/c your emotions are already into this too deep, so i think its best if we no longer see eachother. I jumped from my last relationship right to you, i only gave myself a few months and i never really gave myself time to be single" "

True or not, I think you have to believe him when he says he doesn't want to be in a relationship. Don't beat yourself up. You had more emotional investment in the relationship than he did. You didn't do anything wrong. There are plenty of guys out there who would love to be with you. Don't waste your time on this guy.

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Wed, 07-30-2008 - 12:53am

Welcome to the board melimel1883,


::Im totally devasdated, and im not sure what to do next....


Do nothing.

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Registered: 02-10-2004
Wed, 07-30-2008 - 5:47am

You can't convince a man to be with you - and you shouldn't have to and nor should you WANT to.

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Registered: 02-20-2007
Wed, 07-30-2008 - 8:41am
If after a month he has doubts that he wants to be with you, trust me, he doesn't. This is something a man figures out for himself very early.
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Registered: 10-17-2002
Wed, 07-30-2008 - 11:21am

Hon, it was only a month and you started freaking out on him.

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