I just don't understand women!!!

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Registered: 06-22-2003
I just don't understand women!!!
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Sat, 01-24-2004 - 1:53am
I hear women say "looks" are not that important. They want a man who is loving, compassionate, and has in finances in order.

I also know several of them that date or our married to a man who has the "look" but he doesn't have any of the qualities mentioned above.

What is up with that?

For example, on the reality series "The Average Joe" Melana picked Jason over Adam. Jason is a "pretty" boy while Adam is an average joe but is loving, compassionate, and very well off. I just didn't understand this. Jason still lives at home with his parents and doesn't know what he is going to do with his life.

I see this happen all the time. Women who date or marry a guy who has the "look" but otherwise is a loser. They marry guys like this and then the woman complains all the time about the guy. They say "he can't hold a steady job", "he hits me", "he is in trouble with is finances", "he cheats on me" and "he makes me work a full time job while he sits at home because he is "between jobs".

Can someone please explain to me WHY? does this happen so often?






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Registered: 03-28-2003
Sat, 01-24-2004 - 8:05am
Lots of people, both male and female, choose people who are no good for them. Why? You'd have to look into the individual lives of each person for that answer. I don't think there is a blanket response that covers everybody. Iri
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Registered: 05-20-2003
Sat, 01-24-2004 - 10:33am
You have not described me at all. I liked the 'average' guy on that show too.

Why are you so upset. Did you just have an experience with a girl who picked someone over you?

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Registered: 06-22-2003
Sat, 01-24-2004 - 11:34am
Yes, I have had 3 different women who choose "pretty" boy over me.

The first girl married the guy but divorced him some years later.

The second girl married "her" guy. Since they have been married for close to 20 years now he doesn't allow her to look attractive because he doesn't want anyone else to notice her. He even raped her cousin during the night several years ago and nothing was done about it.

The third girl chose to date a guy who is a womanizer.

I also work with a girl at that complains constantly about her husband. They have been together for about 16 years. He had NEVER held a full time job until recently but he hasn't worked there but just a few months. She has always worked a full time job. She never has any money because he keeps it all. She is always asking people for money and never pays them pack. His children are afraid of him but she will not leave him because he has threatened to take off with them.

Like I said before I just don't understand women.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 01-24-2004 - 12:10pm

You don't understand emotionally unhealthy, troubled women!