I just met a guy that lives in Florida

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Registered: 04-08-2004
I just met a guy that lives in Florida
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Thu, 04-08-2004 - 4:16pm
I just met a guy while I was on vacation in the Bahamas and he told me he loved me after three days. We only spent 5 days together but we spent all our time talking and I really feel like I love him. The problem is, is that he is committed to his job 102% and he can't leave his job. I want to be together and the long distance is making me worried that I am not important enough to him and that he will always put his job first. He said he made a promise to his family to run the business. I'm afraid to trust that hes faithful and that he will make room in his life for me. All I do is miss him and its only been a month! HELP!
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Registered: 06-13-2003
Thu, 04-08-2004 - 4:39pm
Earth to blondy. Time to remove those rose-colored glasses. Meeting someone on vacation is like meeting someone in fantasyland. Vacations are a break from real life. They're all about relaxing and fun. Your 5 days with him wasn't exactly a slice of reality. You are experiencing reality now -- he lives far away and is committed to his family obligations and job responsibilities. You have your own life, your own commitments and responsibilities. The vacation is over, in other words. You have a long way to go to really knowing each other well enough to consider relocations and quitting jobs! It takes a long time and a lot of time spent together to truly get to know someone. My advice to you is to take this a day at a time and slow down. Time will tell you if he's making room and time in his life for you. That's up to him. Worrying about it won't change what's going to happen. The reality here is that you met and got to know and like someone who lives far from you. That's a fact you have to accept. If a LDR isn't going to satisfy you or it's not what you're looking for (ie, if you're looking for more companionship and closeness than that can offer) then this probably isn't the man for you. It's a bummer, but something you should've considered and kept in mind during those 5 days you spent with him.
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Registered: 06-10-2003
Thu, 04-08-2004 - 9:10pm
Be careful. I'm a little concerned he's already said he loves you in just 3 days (been there and I should've known it was a warning sign). How is this possible if you just met? I guess it could be true if you are 'soul mates', but it's also a little odd. My second worry for you (again, been there) is the fact this is long distance and he's already put his job as #1 priority. Jobs are hard to manipulate to make room for sig other...I've battled this scenario before - it's a tough combination (long distance and the job coming first). Just be cautious if you wish to get further into this. If you feel like it's worth a shot, go for it.