I keep finding condoms
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I keep finding condoms
| Wed, 09-15-2004 - 10:42am |
My husband and I have been married 21 years with two almost adult children.
After having a period in our marriage with no sex we had a big talk and now have rediscovered each other. Everything seems to be great - with an exception.
On four separate occassions I have found condoms in my husbands pockets. I asked him about them and he replied that he didn't want to talk about it and would leave if I continued.
Since then we have had fantastic sexual experiences together. By the way my husband is always, and I mean, always at home on time, never goes out without me. So he can't have a girlfriend. He does, however, go away, to other countries on business. Last week he went away again and I noticed that three condoms were missing from a box (yes, a box on display in our study). Of course, when he came home I started looking for them (intuition?) and I found them in his car. All three of them. He hadn't used any. My husband is an intelligent man and what man, intelligent or not, leaves condoms lying around? My husband doesn't have the best of nerves so I'm frightened that if I ask him why he has condoms he will just run and leave.
But this is driving me mad. I'm now becoming paranoid and looking everywhere for any kind of evidence. I'll get ill if I continue in this way. Should I confront my husband or try to live with it as he so obvioulsly isn't having an affair 'cos he's always home.
After having a period in our marriage with no sex we had a big talk and now have rediscovered each other. Everything seems to be great - with an exception.
On four separate occassions I have found condoms in my husbands pockets. I asked him about them and he replied that he didn't want to talk about it and would leave if I continued.
Since then we have had fantastic sexual experiences together. By the way my husband is always, and I mean, always at home on time, never goes out without me. So he can't have a girlfriend. He does, however, go away, to other countries on business. Last week he went away again and I noticed that three condoms were missing from a box (yes, a box on display in our study). Of course, when he came home I started looking for them (intuition?) and I found them in his car. All three of them. He hadn't used any. My husband is an intelligent man and what man, intelligent or not, leaves condoms lying around? My husband doesn't have the best of nerves so I'm frightened that if I ask him why he has condoms he will just run and leave.
But this is driving me mad. I'm now becoming paranoid and looking everywhere for any kind of evidence. I'll get ill if I continue in this way. Should I confront my husband or try to live with it as he so obvioulsly isn't having an affair 'cos he's always home.

Sorry but if there were condoms lying around my house, disappearing/reappearing and we don't use them...I'd be all over it and I don't care what issues he has. Maybe his "nerves" would be better if he wasn't hiding something?..hmmm?
Hon, stop trying to talk yourself into believing there is nothing going on...there is. Confront it before it gets worse