I keep testing him...
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I keep testing him...
| Tue, 04-17-2007 - 2:41am |
Whenever my BF & I fight. (Big or little fight), I keep "testing" him. I say things like "This isn't going to work out", "I'm done", "don't call me anymore", etc.
WHY do I do this? I know it's awful. I know it's some sort of game. But, I can't really understand why I do it.
I guess I'm just insecure & think he will leave. So, I'm trying to protect myself.
Anyone else do this? How to break the juvenile habit?
I love the guy. I don't want to lose him. But, I'm pushing him away with this crap

Perhaps it's time to question the relationship anyway.
The fact that he stays around and takes your empty threats shows that he's a doormat. Him staying around doesn't prove that he loves you and is in for the long haul....rather, it proves that he's lacking in the self esteem required to remove himself from a bad relationship.
Welcome to the board lushass,
Have you had a habit of doing this in your past relationships? How does your bf react when you say these things to him?
If you know that you are doing it, make an real effort to not say those things and if you do apologize immediately and tell him you didn't mean it and that you are working on fixing the problem.
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