I know he cheated
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| Wed, 03-26-2008 - 11:20am |
I am so lost. My husband and I had a friend die last week and the funeral was yesterday. Everything was fine. We go home and I changed my clothes thinking we would be going to meet up with some friends for a memorial of our own. My husband walked out the door saying he was going to a friends. I figured he would be home in a short time and then we would go.
He did not come home. The phone was dead or turned off (how convienient). I did leave messages around ten pm. 12 o'clock some unknown # appeared on my phone five times. I was sleeping and did not here. At three I called in for work. While on the phone I recieved another call (restricted) answered it and it was a man telling me if I was looking for my husband he was with a girl at our marina.
I went down right away to find it to be true. I found him with his clothes on but don't know if that means much. It still is cheating.
This is the second time a friend died and he went and fooled around on me. I can't take it. I love him and we have plans to sail around the world in a years so we were getting ready for that now this. He just does'nt see how it hurts me when he goes out drinking and has no control. I wish he would have landed in jail before this would happen again.
It hurts to know that he has broken every promise he has made me. Why do I still want to try? Will I be able to get past this if we do try. How long will it take for him to make the same mistake again and why should I be here to see it. I know there no guarntees in life but I am a good person that doesnt deserve this. Help!
Salty
Edited 3/26/2008 11:25 am ET by salty267

Welcome to the board salty,
Did you confront your husband about him cheating on you? Obviously this isn't the first time he has cheated on you. What did the two of you do to work things out after the first time? Do you still want to be with him?
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Welcome to the board salty267,
::This is the second time a friend died and he went and fooled around on me.
So now it's a pattern.
Sounds as though your husband's behavior has not been dealt with yet. You both need to go to see a well trained professional marriage counsellor and get the professional help needed in this situation. It's not something to be brushed under the rug, as it does hurt so much and has happened before. He loses clarity and control and then acts out. He needs help and you do too in figuring out how to handle this and what the implications are for the rest of your life.
Go get the professional help you both need.
best wishes,
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