I know a HUGE secret-do I confront him?
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| Fri, 12-12-2003 - 1:38pm |
I know we've only been together 4 months, but I feel like this is something he should have revealed to me, as our relationship is close and I have told him very personal things about myself. I want to confront him because I'm no good at living a lie, but his sister told me this in confidence. Not only that, she wasn't even supposed to know because he only told his mother and his mother was the one that told his sister. I don't want to cause problems in his family, but I am investing more and more into this relationship and am afraid he won't ever tell me if I don't ask. My friend doesn't know the details, so I don't even know if he's still married to this girl, waiting for her papers to come through, or if he even went through with it, but I have to know. What would you all do????? Help!!!
Janet

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If he did it for the paperwork- no, he is not supposed to tell you all of that. NO.
I was in this situation- I did need the paperwork. You do not even realize what it is like to be illegal....You do not want to know.
You probably do not even know what are the consequences of getting involved into a fake marriage. No, he does not want anyone to know that- relationships end and get ugly sometimes..
Here is an example. My best friend was dating this guy and told him that she was working illegaly while being on a student visa. Everything was great until they broke up. It turned ugly; he made her life miserable just becase he knew "the truth". He was manipulating her- that is how much she was dependant on that truth.
And oh yes, you could change thigns around by knowing that your bf and his X committed a crime (it is punished by law...and has some bad outcomes.)
So, get over it: he does not have to share certain things until he trusts the relationship for sure...
good luck, "secret keeper",
O.S.
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