I love him, but I'm not head over heels!

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Registered: 01-25-2006
I love him, but I'm not head over heels!
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Fri, 05-04-2007 - 9:49am
I started dating my boyfriend a year and a half ago, after knowing him on a friend level for a couple of years. He's a great guy, good to me. Two months after we started dating, I got pregnant. I love my son who is now 7 months old. He is the love of my life. My boyfriend is a very good father. We are talking about getting married in Oct. As much as I would love to have the same last name as my son. And I know my boyfriend would be a great husband, I don't have that feeling of being madly, deeply, head over heels. We get along great. But I'm adventurous, outgoing and he's laid back and we don't have a lot of similar interests except working out, which is where we met. Am I overreacting, I have a good man, but I always thought the man I married, I would have that butterfly in the stomach, crazy feeling for. UGH! I need advice!
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-30-2005
Fri, 05-04-2007 - 5:41pm

Welcome to the board butterfly1024,


Maybe you don't have those feelings because you are comfortable around him now? Do you love your bf? Do you think you would be happy if you got married? Do you have any problems in your relationship?


iVillage Member
Registered: 01-25-2006
Fri, 05-04-2007 - 10:20pm
I do love him. He is a good man. He loves me and he loves our son. I am happy for the most part, we never have any problems what so ever. I don't know if it's just natural to question my relationship because I'm planning on marrying him. I just thought the man I would marry we would have more fun, have that head over heels feeling. Am I crazy? Am I overreacting. I know he's much better than most men, but I just don't know if I will be happy forever like this.
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-30-2005
Tue, 05-08-2007 - 12:29pm
It sounds like you are getting cold feet which is normal. However, I don't think you should marry him if you are not sure. Look into going to premartial counseling. My cousin was required to go by the pastor that was performing her ceremony.

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