I love you, but I'm not in love with you
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|Thu, 05-29-2003 - 1:04am|
My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and a half and just recently he moved in with me and my children. At the start of our relationship he had a girlfriend but I was so attracted to him, I actually fell in love with him from the begining, but he only saw our relationship as a friendship. We started having sex and that only made me fall more in love with him because that is our biggest compatibility. As time went on we developed such a good friendship we confided in each other for everything. When he broke up with his GF I thought that was my opportunity for us to have a relationship but instead he met someone else and got involved into another relationship, only to find out it was a mistake. I stopped talking to him for a while because he clearly knew how I felt for him and I felt betrayed. But that didn't last long, because sexually we can't keep our hands off of each other. Well he broke up with the this other girl then we decided that we will try to have a romantic relationship. He moved in and everything was good, but soon he started to become distant. At first we spent the weekends together doing things with the kids, but now it seems as if he is trying to stay busy in his work and keep himself away from home, so I asked him what the problem was and he told me that he loved me very much, but only as a friend and that he didn't love me romanticly. He feels that we are too different due to our diets (I don't eat red meat) and other factors. I have changed so many things about myself for him, and they are all for the better and I appreciate the change. I just don't understand how he could not be in love with me with all that we share. He doesn't want to move out we want to see what happens, but now I'm like a paranoid psycho questioning every little thing, like when he leaves the house or when the phone rings. I don't want to end the relationship because honestly it is the best I've ever experienced, but I don't want to wait too see what happens and one day he finds someone who he falls in love with and leaves me. I am very confused and I don't know what to do please help.........