I Love You? - to someone else?

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Registered: 05-17-2003
I Love You? - to someone else?
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Sat, 04-17-2004 - 11:28am
I was out of town on vacation with my boyfriend recently. He had an old classmate that he's known for about 3 years that was also there. Originally they were suppose to meet up, but he forgot to call her and she had left already by then. So he left her a voicemail basically saying he forgot etc etc, but he ended it saying "I Love You" to her like 2 times. Is that normal? When I heard this I was really upset, still am and throw it in his face.

I felt like it was totally disrespectful to say "I Love You" to another woman. He claims it's because he's a loving person, was raised that way, where as I was not raised to freely say "I Love You".

I'm just looking for a reality check. To me the words "I Love You" are sacred. Not just freely thrown and tossed around.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 04-17-2004 - 12:34pm
Here's a simple concept for you - keep throwing this in his face and you will find yourself thrown to the curb! Why would he want to take that kind of crap from you?

It is impossible to change the past. He has stated his position and you have stated yours. Neither position is 100% right or 100% wrong. If you can't accept this difference then break up. He will likely be more sensitive to your position going forward, but do not expect to change him.

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Registered: 04-10-2004
Sat, 04-17-2004 - 9:53pm
Hello destinyher. :-) If I were you, I would have done exactly the same thing. I think what you should do is to explain it to him what you feel about saying those three words. To you, saying those words are sacred; however, maybe it's not to him. Every one has a different view on things... so let him know yours, and tell him that you are not comfortable with him saying it to other people (except family members of course). If he repects you, he won't do it again. :-)