I luv him but he wants proof
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I luv him but he wants proof
| Tue, 10-05-2004 - 5:31pm |
Is there anyway possible for a woman to show a man she loves him by not just telling him that? My boyfriend is an "actions speak louder than words" kind of guy and as much as I tell him I love him and I am happy with him, he always tells me he feels like he isn't loved enough, that I need to show him, prove to him I love him. To do something unique different, nothing like what I ever did in my past relationships or just with any other guy. The thing is my last boyfriend had past away 2 years ago, time has passed and now I found my current boyfriend who is unbelivably wonderful. He just always tends to feel like he is second best and that my past relationships was better and nothing can compare. He says he always feels like he is in competition,always wondering and thinking if I were more happy before. I never have felt so much happier in love and in life as I do now ever since I met my boyfriend, how can i "show" him that? also it makes it hard because we are in a long distance now for about 1 month so far. I feel like I'm losing the best love I always wanted and I'm afraid. pls help

It sounds like you've been through a lot, and you deserve someone who isn't insecure and jealous and demanding. Because although you think he's a great guy...and I'm sure he is, he's TOO insecure to be in a relationship and he needs to work on that. If you are loving him and being there for him and he still can't seem to get the "proof" he needs, that's his problem and his insecurities that he probably needs counseling for. I doubt you'll take the advice to break up with him, but at least think about it. Why do you need someone in your life that is trying to make you PROVE something that should just be felt through small simple actions. In the end it will just make you feel usless and not good enough and your self image will suffer.
Good luck.
Five Love Languages, Gary Chapman
A woman once said her father never told her that he loved her....after she read this book, she realized that her father loved her or he wouldn't be out at 5am working on her car when it broke down.
Carrie