I miss my ex-boyfriend

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Registered: 03-17-2004
I miss my ex-boyfriend
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Wed, 03-17-2004 - 6:50pm
Me and my now ex-boyfriend broke up about a month before our two year anniversary.After we had talked about getting married in the future.I am only 19, but, it would've obviously been after I got a job going. Well, I am going through drama right now with some people and I miss him. He was always so comforting. I emailed him about it, and he comforted me, saying that he was on my side. Actually, I had this dream that I was with my friends, we were driving, and we drove into a dark place with ghosts. Suddenly I was wrapped in my ex's arms, and he was comforting me,and the sun was shining again. The darkness in my dream seems to be what I am going through now, you know, with all the drama and all. I just want him back, to have his comforting back. To hear him say that he loves me again. I still love him. We've been broken up for about 3 months. Is it right for me to want him back??


blondebeauty03

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Registered: 11-01-2003
Wed, 03-17-2004 - 6:58pm
yes it's very natural. he was probably the last guy whom really comforted you, who you had a good relationship with, so its very common to miss him and what you've had, and love don't just suddenly disppear.

but ask yourself, would this relationship work if you guys got back together?

do you want to get back together? is it even possible and mutual?

good luck. think about if this is just a dream or something more meaningful to the both of you.
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Registered: 03-18-2004
Thu, 03-18-2004 - 3:11pm
Hey, I totally know what your going through...except my ex and I broke up 9 months ago, and we are still like best buds but the fact that I am still in love with him, scares me because I am passing up other opportunities... but you can't help how you feel, and if he loves you then why aren't you two getting back together?? 2 years is a long time...I hope things work out, you just gotta let him know 100%....anyways how can I check my messages? I am new to this hehe...
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Registered: 08-04-2003
Thu, 03-18-2004 - 3:59pm
As long as you 'remain friends' with your ex, you will have trouble getting over him. To heal, you need some space. To grieve and accept that it's over. If you want more and he's only offering friendship, you will continue to be hurt. It also feeds FALSE HOPE that someday he may change his mind and want a relationship.

Sorry for your pain.


Carrie