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| Tue, 04-10-2007 - 3:34pm |
My boyfriend and I got in a fight the other day. We had plans to take my daughter to the Zoo, his friends called him, and asked him to go to Texas instead, he asked what I thought, and I told him that I didnt think he should go. He got pissed at me, and went to a bar - after we had an agreement, that we would talk about it before he did those types of things. Im not so mad about the bar, just about the broken promise. So while he was at the bar, he wouldnt answer his phone, and eventually turned it off. I was calling him to tell him that maybe I was wrong, and he should go hang out with his friends in Texas. So, at the time I was calling him, I figured he was at home asleep, so I went to his house, his car was there, I have a key, I went inside, and he wasnt there, so I drove by one of the bars, and there he was. So we talked about it, and a couple days ago, he promised me he wouldnt go to a bar again. Last night, we got into an argument until 4am, because he didnt think that his promise was fair and we needed to comprimise about it. So Im like ok, I dont want you to go at all, you want to go, so why dont we go together, and he doesnt even want to do that. He wants to go with his friends without me. He said pretty much, either I go when I want, where I want, or its over. So I just feel totally walked on, and dont know what to do. We were thinking about moving in together around July, but I am skeptical now.
Some background:
We are both divorced
We have been together a year
Not engaged
What should I do?
~abc

Hi aquabluechika and welcome to the board,
It's hard to compromise with someone that doesn't want to compromise.
aquabluechika,
It seems obvious he isn't willing to compromise on this issue. Is he like this when it comes to other things in the relationship? Is this something that you are willing to accept?
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You are dating a man who is petulant and immature. He hits the bottle when something "upsets" him. His local tavern is his second home.
You are rearing a little girl.
Why on God's green earth would you consider bringing him under the same roof?