I need feedback

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Registered: 05-16-2004
I need feedback
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Sun, 05-16-2004 - 10:58pm
well, i am new to the board. but i also have a question. i have been with someone for going on 10 years and we have 4 children. recently i started seeing this man that i met in the grocery store. acually a "stockboy", i know it sounds pretty lame and generic but it was like this instant physical attraction. i took glimpse of him and it started from there. he makes me feel better than i have been able to feel in a long time. and the sex is awsome he does things that i read about. i just feel a little bit guilty because i wouldnt want anyone to cheat on me. what should i do without sacrificing my happiness?
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Registered: 05-17-2004
Mon, 05-17-2004 - 3:27am
Your obviously not sacrificing your happiness if your having such a great time, you said yourself that you wouldnt want anyone to cheat on you yet your cheating on someone else. For this Karma will get you. You have been with one guy for 10 years, i would hope that you could at least have enough respect for him to tell him that you are with someone else or that you want to be apart from him. Your children will actually be the ones to pay the ultimate price if you dont nip this in the bud NOW. If its just for sex, then dump the stock boy, go home and tell your man now that this is what you want and you want it from him. either way, if it were me i would have to come clean about my where abouts. This is one of the most selfish acts anyone could ever do to someone else, and you are basically admitting that by saying you dont want to sacrifice your happiness. No one deserves to find out that the person they havent stopped loving for 10 years is in bed with the local grocery store stock boy. END IT NOW! you owe it to both men and the children to be honest with what you are doing. and trust me, even though your kids might not see what you are doing, they KNOW!
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-08-2003
Mon, 05-17-2004 - 11:18am
I notice you never mentioned anything about your husband. No beatings, no complaints about sex or how he treats your children, how you get along or if he has been cheating. My guess is that he's fine. Maybe life with children and 10 years of marriage has gotten a little dull. You chose the self-centered, inconsiderate method of satisfying your own needs while treating your marriage like garbage. Looking for positive re-enforcement? You've come to the wrong place.
iVillage Member
Registered: 08-04-2003
Mon, 05-17-2004 - 2:28pm
If your bf (common-law husband) was doing this to you, what would you want him to do?


Carrie

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-20-2003
Mon, 05-17-2004 - 2:33pm
If something is missing in your relationship then talk to your partner about it-don't seek attention elsewhere. What are you teaching your children,by example? Have some respect for your family.