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| Mon, 08-16-2004 - 6:03pm |
I am a 20 year old married mother of 2. Lately my husband and I have been having some problems. Since the problems started I have been seriously crushing on the maintaince supervisor. Everytime I see him around my apartment complex, I think about him the rest of the day. I love my husband and children but I just can't stop thinking about this man. Is there something seriously wrong with me or my feelings towards my husband that I have not figured out yet? What should I do?

Whats wrong is the relationship with your husband. The sooner you are upfront and honest with him and yourself, the better...Whats lacking? With 2 kids and being so young, Im sure things arent perfect. The important thing is to stay away from that supervisor, he will only cause trouble and pain.
Maybe if you set aside one or two days a month to spend with each other, you will remember why you should be fantasizing about you rhusband and not anyone else.
Best wishes adn keep us posted.
This is called "transference"---and because you're not getting the attention you want from your husband...you're hoping Mr. Maintenance Man will satisfy you in that department!
But you better be careful what you wish for! If you encourage anything more than "just a hello"---you'll not only screw up your marriage, but will give your children some very confusing signals!
Maybe you need to take an enrichment course, do some volunteer work, or get out on your own one or 2 nights a week? Any diversion might take your mind off of Mr. Maintenance Man!
Pianoguy
Carrie