I need help

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Registered: 01-05-2004
I need help
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Mon, 01-05-2004 - 3:03pm
My boyfriend and I of two years split up four months ago. The problem is that he won't let me go. He keeps coming back around, telling me he loves me, but he won't commit. He knows how I feel about him and how much he's hurting me...but I love him too much to tell him not to come around. I am so confused.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: dkerivan
Mon, 01-05-2004 - 3:09pm

I went through this...for THREE YEARS.

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Registered: 11-20-2003
In reply to: dkerivan
Mon, 01-05-2004 - 4:00pm
Your ex-boyfriend is playing with your emotions (& you are allowing him to do so). You have to decide if you really want to wait around and allow him to have the upper hand in this relationship. What if he never wants to commit to you - isn't that unfair to you?

If you decide to wait on him - then you are allowing him to take you on these emotional rollercoasters but on the other hand if you decide to move on - then you have no other choice but to let your ex-boyfriend you that while you love him, you love yourself more and you have to move on in life. This is going to hurt like hell initially but in the long run - you both will be better off.

Good luck!!

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Registered: 01-01-2004
In reply to: dkerivan
Mon, 01-05-2004 - 5:41pm
I totally agree with what the other's have said. the game your bf is playing is a control game. I went thru it for 6-yrs. Even after he was married to someone else, and so was i. he still tried to play games with my mind and heart. The only catch was i didn't let him. I told him if i wanted him, i wouldn't have married someone else. I then changed and unlisted my phone number, moved and blocked all contact on computer. even had to change my e-mail address. At first i thought i loved him so much, i let him treat me like this. I finally realized, he didn't love me, he loved himself. He loved knowing that i loved him and he could do whatever he wanted and still come pull me back in. Love yourself enough to say ENOUGH. you deserve better, not games.