I need help asap

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Registered: 03-16-2008
I need help asap
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Tue, 11-04-2008 - 1:47pm
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Tue, 11-04-2008 - 2:05pm

Welcome to the board mommy2kiaralynn,


Most couples cannot heal the betrayal of cheating and rebuild trust without seeing a counselor.

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Registered: 03-16-2008
Tue, 11-04-2008 - 2:09pm

We have been to counseling through my work's free program, but that only included 6 sessions and they ended due to insurance reasons. :( I still go for depression and anxiety issues


but in the counseling things were working out better. We had been good for month when I went back and she was so proud of us, and then that week everything went down the drain.


I know he likes the attention, he's admitted it. but he thinks if he's not doing anything with them that he isn't doing anything wrong.


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Registered: 02-05-2007
Tue, 11-04-2008 - 2:30pm
Does he have a double standard?
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Tue, 11-04-2008 - 4:00pm
he said he doesn't care...that i probably am...which is BS. I have never given him any reason to think I was cheating on him or doing anything with anyone.
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Registered: 08-04-2003
Tue, 11-04-2008 - 4:07pm
Lots of cheaters accuse others what they are guilty of.


Carrie

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Wed, 11-05-2008 - 8:54am

Even though there is reason for you to be suspicious, due to what he did in the beginning of your relationship, and due to his talking so much to other women, checking on him and not tusting is very bad for you. It keeps you anxious and suspicious and can certainly cause you to feel very insecure. I suggest that you see a well trained counsellor and talk this over. You need some on-going support and clarity in sorting out both your feelings and behavior and also in discovering exactly what is going on. With the help of the right person, you can learn how to discuss this with him, and also how to handle your own feelings. This is a complicated situation, you are both young, you have a child and there are many factors here. It's not something that can be handled over email quickly.


Get the right help you need. All good wishes,