I need help I am falling apart

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Registered: 11-06-2007
I need help I am falling apart
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Tue, 11-06-2007 - 12:42pm
My g/f and I lived across the street growing up together. It was not till her family moved away that we started dating. We dated for 3 years then got engaged. Last Friday she broke it off.

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Tue, 11-06-2007 - 3:35pm
I think it was a good email. It didn't sound mean at all.

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Registered: 11-06-2007
Tue, 11-06-2007 - 5:28pm

She could need some time to figure out what her feelings are.

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Registered: 11-06-2007
Tue, 11-06-2007 - 5:40pm

I think I just wrote on this in another place.

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Registered: 11-06-2007
Tue, 11-06-2007 - 11:55pm
I completely understand what you are going through, the feelings of panic and the need to know right now that everything will be OK. I know this is hard to hear and difficult to fathom right now, but if she does not come back immediately you will most likely go through a process of grieving, and then you will start to feel better each day. The feelings of urgency and the need to contact her will eventually go away. That is the point when she may decide to return, and unfortunately for her you may have moved on emotionally. It would be wonderful if you are given the chance to prove that you are serious about making her happy - just be sure not to force yourself to do something that you don't feel comfortable with just to please her. Once she has the space she needs she will figure out whether she made a mistake in leaving you. Until then it will not happen. While you give her space, you should spend that time evaluating what you really want also. I know this is so hard - and I do ache for you. It will work out for the best regardless of the outcome.
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Wed, 11-07-2007 - 9:44am

Obviously the woman you were engaged to has problems,

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Registered: 11-06-2007
Wed, 11-07-2007 - 10:22am
I definitely want her back. That is not the issue. I know she still cares deeply about me. The problem I am facing is how when she does contact me that I show her that we can work on the problem together, if she even wants to work on the problem. Since the e-mail yesterday there has been no contact.

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