I need help moving on.........

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Registered: 07-19-2004
I need help moving on.........
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Tue, 08-03-2004 - 5:45pm
I have a very hard time moving on after a boyfriend, for over a year now, av had 4 boyfriends, After the first one i wanted to get ova him really fast, so i met sumone else, that again did not work out and so i went strate on to sumone else, an then again, ive had enuff now i want a different way of moving on because im jus gettin hurt everytime. I don't go with these lads because i just want sumone, i do like them, sum more than others, but it just doesnt end up workin out.

Does anybody have any good ideas of moving on.

I also love being single, because i get to do what i want an stuff like that, but most of the time i want sumone there (a boyfriend) which is also why i think i go strate into another relationship. Why is this? Why do i feel like i really need a boyfriend there?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 08-04-2004 - 8:35am
beckybabe41...

Who told you that you have to live YOUR ENTIRE LIFE with a constant boyfriend? Pianoguy is sure it wasn't your Mother!

Are you THAT INSECURE?

4 boyfriends over a one year period...and you enjoy being single? There's something out of whack here. Maybe you have a problem being ALONE?

Just for the heck of it...make yourself a promise that you're going to try and do stuff for YOU...FIRST! And if this stuff doesn't require a boyfriend...that's even better! .

If you HAVE to be seen with somebody...make it clear to him at the beginning that this is

FRIENDSHIP ONLY! And MEAN IT!

Pianoguy

who gets the impression from your post that once the guys get whatever they expect from you...they split! Am I right?

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Registered: 07-19-2004
Wed, 08-04-2004 - 10:25am
Ive neva slept with ne of them besides da one ive just been with then, an it was just the once. I don't want a boyfriend just to show off to ppl, i just want sumone there that i like an that likes me back. I neva used to be like this, but i strted seein dis lad an then wen we broke up, i strted likin dis other lad an he liked me, an dats just how its gone on. I don't wanna feel like dis, cos i dnt wanna feel like i HAVE to have a fella, i wanna be independant, but i find it ded hard. I want both, a single life and a boyfriend, sumtimes i love bein single but then i feel like i want a boyfriend.