i need help with mr brag too much

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Registered: 12-07-2007
i need help with mr brag too much
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Fri, 12-07-2007 - 7:06pm
My boyfriends and I have been in a very serious relationship for about 6 months. Everythings great and we pretty much both think we found "the one". However I have one constant turn off with all guys and he falls into that too often. He brings up his past relationships too often. He used to not be too great of a guy, kind of munipulative and what not, I can tell he has changed with out any of my doing, but I still don't like how much the past is being brought up. Also at times when he is around my guy friends he seems to try to give them horrible, mean advice on basically how to be an ass and get laid. I don't know what to do. I don't exactly have the best communication skills. Please help.
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Registered: 09-16-2007
Fri, 12-07-2007 - 8:08pm
Have you told him to stop?!? I guess he's not going to know unless you tell him, but I think it's kind of common knowledge that bringing up past relationships isn't a favorite conversation topic of most people. I guess he's just clueless, but he also does sound like a big time ass to me. Is he actually bragging about his previous relationships - to YOU?? Or is he just mentioning something in passing. If he seems to be bragging about previous girlfriends than that doesn't tell me that he thinks you're "the one". If you're "the one" he should think that the others in his past don't compare to YOU, not bragging about how great his past partners were. And don't just brush off what he says to your male friends, because that says something about his character now. I'm sorry to tell you, but based on what you have said it doesn't sound like he is ready to be in a relationship committed to just one woman. His head still seems to be filled with how great it was being with all these women, and also recommending it to your friends. Don't ignore these facts he's showing you.
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Registered: 12-07-2007
Fri, 12-07-2007 - 10:10pm
Thanks for the reply. It's not fully bragging, he always manages to towards the end say how he is happy he found the one with me and once he told me if he knew i was coming along he would give up all those time. That all actually bragging happens when my guy friends are chilling with us. He has a few years on me and most of my friends do as well but they all kind of idolise him. I kind of in the past have had sexuality questioning and never really been with many guys. I'm young, 19 and he is 25. I'd really like to believe that he is the one. We have both been loyal I know it for fact and when we are not around my guy friends it can be like a different person and that worries me. I have huge trust issues, even oddly trying to get into therapy mainly for my trust issues. I'm kind of a too confusing of a person for my own good. Again, thanks for the advice.
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Registered: 09-16-2007
Fri, 12-07-2007 - 11:35pm
Okay, so maybe you are too young to realize that there is NO need for talking about past relationships AT ALL!!Are you asking him questions about it - if not he's bringing it up on his own free will.