after I bit the bullet and called him he reluctantly agreed to discuss a few things with me, though he was rather snappy and angry sounding throughout the conversation.
his reason for not seeing me very often (5-6 days) is that he has gotten used to seeing me this often.
he worries about our future because I have once said in passing that after university I would like to travel. I would like to travel, but if I found myself to be in a serious relationship at this time I would compromise.
I have often said I don't want to have children, I would instead adopt. again this is true, I would rather adopt children. also because there is a slight chance that I may not even be able to have my own children since I am developing a hereditary condition earlier than my own mother did. again, depending on whichever circumstance I would be willing to compromise, since that's what relationships are all about.
our sex life has gone down the pan because even when trying to relax at home he can only think about his job and all the work he has to do.
he claims to be suffering from depression, yet in experience, people suffering from depression often get so low from failing to please everyone after trying so hard to not let them down, yet he often lets me down. instead could he be severely stressed and under constant pressure?
it could be that the age gap is starting to creep into our relationship as a bad thing. he feels ready to settle down and start a family, where I still have four years left at university which will still only make me 23, which in my opinion is still too young to have children.
does he want this rosy future with me? or is he just in such a rush to settle that I will do? but the fact he will have to wait till I have finished university an I have made it clear that even then I will not be ready to have a child? or will I feel pressured into providing a child after university? will
It seems like he is starting to become verbally abusive to you. To me this a red flag and I think you should reconsider the relationship. He is definitely pushing you away and doesn't seem to have any interest in talking to you about the issues in your relationship.
Honestly why are you putting up with this? How many times does he have to take advantage of you, abuse you and keep you waiting before you get it; he is not a nice person and will not make a good husband. Can you see him abusing your kids because they ask to see him too often??
Please dump him and figure out why you think you deserve such treatment.
after I bit the bullet and called him he reluctantly agreed to discuss a few things with me, though he was rather snappy and angry sounding throughout the conversation.
his reason for not seeing me very often (5-6 days) is that he has gotten used to seeing me this often.
he worries about our future because I have once said in passing that after university I would like to travel. I would like to travel, but if I found myself to be in a serious relationship at this time I would compromise.
I have often said I don't want to have children, I would instead adopt. again this is true, I would rather adopt children. also because there is a slight chance that I may not even be able to have my own children since I am developing a hereditary condition earlier than my own mother did. again, depending on whichever circumstance I would be willing to compromise, since that's what relationships are all about.
our sex life has gone down the pan because even when trying to relax at home he can only think about his job and all the work he has to do.
he claims to be suffering from depression, yet in experience, people suffering from depression often get so low from failing to please everyone after trying so hard to not let them down, yet he often lets me down. instead could he be severely stressed and under constant pressure?
it could be that the age gap is starting to creep into our relationship as a bad thing. he feels ready to settle down and start a family, where I still have four years left at university which will still only make me 23, which in my opinion is still too young to have children.
does he want this rosy future with me? or is he just in such a rush to settle that I will do? but the fact he will have to wait till I have finished university an I have made it clear that even then I will not be ready to have a child? or will I feel pressured into providing a child after university? will
Welcome to the board wee_lamb89,
It seems like he is starting to become verbally abusive to you. To me this a red flag and I think you should reconsider the relationship. He is definitely pushing you away and doesn't seem to have any interest in talking to you about the issues in your relationship.
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Honestly why are you putting up with this? How many times does he have to take advantage of you, abuse you and keep you waiting before you get it; he is not a nice person and will not make a good husband. Can you see him abusing your kids because they ask to see him too often??
Please dump him and figure out why you think you deserve such treatment.