I need help!!!!!!!!!!!11

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Registered: 02-03-2004
I need help!!!!!!!!!!!11
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Mon, 02-09-2004 - 12:07pm
Ok I am hoping I can get some help for everyone. I am having some problems (what I think are problems) with my husband. I am feeling all he is interested in is his video games and sports. When we were dating it was wonderful I felt I was important to him but now I do not feel at all important. I am so upset I don't even want to be in the same room as him can someone help me.

Renee'

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 02-09-2004 - 1:49pm
Renee...

I suppose you could always blow up the BIG SCREEN TV MONITOR and that would get your husband to notice you more?

But ask yourself if the problem was present while you two were dating?

More than likely...his attention has shifted from YOU to the VIDEO GAME and THE SPORTING ARENA for a few reasons? Do you nag him? Have you noticed any additional stress connected with his work? What about his diet?

You really have to give us more to work with here. Provide some information and I'll bet you'll receive some great ivillage responses?

Pianoguy

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Registered: 02-03-2004
Mon, 02-09-2004 - 1:57pm
To tell the truth his attention was all on me the video games and sports were not a concern. I do not think that I nag and there is no stress at his job. I feel like it is just a convenience to have me around. I hope this gives more information. If I could blow up the tv I surely would.
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Registered: 04-02-2003
Mon, 02-09-2004 - 2:02pm

yes, we do need more details. here are just a few questions -


do you work outside the house? do you have friends and interests of your own? do you do things on your own - or do you always look toward your husband to do things with him?


does your dh work full time outside the house? does HE have friends and other interests?


who does the housework and chores?


and while you were dating - what was "wonderful". how did you feel "important" to him? did you live together before you got married?


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Registered: 08-04-2003
Mon, 02-09-2004 - 4:41pm
Basically you want more attention and time with your husband and currently his way of unwinding after work is to play video games and/or watch sports.....so without knowing the details that other posters have asked...

Have you discussed with him the need to have a weekly date night out of the house? Or to start a hobby together? Or do something together - cook a meal together, rent a movie and watch it together, read a book together? Or are you just hanging out at home, hoping and wishing he'll want to spend some time with you? Talk to him.


Carrie

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Registered: 10-15-2003
Mon, 02-09-2004 - 5:21pm
Its always rosy in the beginning of the relationship...and then it changes when they get comfortable. Why don't you plan a romantic dinner, just the two of you so you can get away from TV and just talk. I'm sure he would appriciate the attention and you never know...maybe next time he'll return the favor.