I need to know what's the next step. hel

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I need to know what's the next step. hel
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Sun, 10-12-2008 - 11:24am

Me and my ex started dating when he was 16 and I was 17, now we're 19 and 20.

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Sun, 10-12-2008 - 12:17pm

Welcome to the board rbmagnolia,


I think you should keep doing exactly what you are doing now.

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Mon, 10-13-2008 - 9:22am
I did something horrible last night. I told him exactly how I felt and I think I scared him off. He said, "Of course I still love you and have feeling for you, but what do you want me to say? Do you want me to say that I'm going to leave my current girlfriend who I really like for my ex that may or may not have changed and lives 7 hours away and might see 4 months out of the year?"
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Mon, 10-13-2008 - 1:26pm

Welcome to the board rbmagnolia888,


I don't think speaking your truth is horrible. However, I think knowing that he has a current girlfriend, you aren't doing right by yourself.

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Mon, 10-13-2008 - 2:05pm
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Mon, 10-13-2008 - 2:39pm

Actions and words must match.

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Sat, 10-25-2008 - 7:59pm

Ok, so since you helped me out so much last time, I was hoping you could help me again. Pretty please with sugar on top?? LOL :-)


Well, since my last post, I have been attending counseling at my school and it has been a TREMENDOUS help, I asked a girl to hang out sometimes in my class and we exchanged numbers and she invited me to some parties and guys actually approached me, I'm the little akward girl who stays at home and studies and pines for her ex boyfriend, not the party girl who gets approached by guys.

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Sat, 10-25-2008 - 8:58pm

::Am I wrong, but if that new girl REALLY meant something to him, would he still be saying he loves me, but was he just saying that because his sister was around and thinks we're still together, or because he meant it?

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Sun, 10-26-2008 - 2:29pm

I re-read your first post this morning and this jumped out at me:


::The more I realized how selfish, whiney, and immature little girl I have been and realize why he would want to break up with me in the first place!