I need a lifesaver!

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-03-2007
I need a lifesaver!
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Sat, 12-15-2007 - 3:06pm

Okay, this is going to sound really crazy but here goes....

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-27-2007
Sat, 12-15-2007 - 3:59pm

I feel really sorry for you for what happened to you as a child, but your husband ought to have helped you more.

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-03-2007
Sat, 12-15-2007 - 6:50pm

Thank you for such kind hearted advice.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-20-2007
Sat, 12-15-2007 - 7:14pm

I'm so sorry about what happened to you. You don't deserve any of it and your husband really showed you his true colors by his inability to stick with you.

It was cowardly of him to leave you, especially so soon after learning about your past sexual abuse. That should have flipped a switch in his head that said "wow, we finally know what has come between us sexually, now we can address the problem an get better". Instead... it's as though he said to himself "well that seals it, she's never going to have sex with me anymore"

Sexual fulfillment is necessary in a marriage but he should have been by your side during a difficult time when you are coming to terms with your past and how it affects your future. I wouldn't blame you for essentially feeling lied to.

All I can say is that if he left you in spite of this, you are better off. Hopefully you can use this valuable time to focus on yourself and finally healing from tough memories.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-05-2007
Sun, 12-16-2007 - 12:00am

Welcome to the board goingcrackers,


I'm sorry you are going through this.