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I need more attention
| Thu, 08-26-2004 - 7:19pm |
Hello, I have been with my boyfriend for 6 months. In the beginning everything was great. He would send me text messages saying "i love you" or just to say hello. He showered me with attention. Now hat he lives with me he doesnt do any of these things. He says that I give him so much attention that he feels like he doesnt need to give me any back. I supposedly do enough for the both of us. I dont know what to do because I dont give him any more attention now than I did before. We both go to college..different ones...and all I want is for him to send me a text message to let me know that hes thinking about me. Im starting to think something is wrong with me. I don know what I have done to turn him off. Maybe something i havent done. But, I know FOR A FACT that he is capable of giving me the attention I want, need and deserve. any advice would help. thanks

Rest assured that there is nothing wrong with you personally, but with the realtionship and the both of you as a team. Couples tend to fall into habit, becoming so "comfortable" that they forget that the other person still needs affection, love and most of all...time. Key is communication. If you want him to do more things with you, tell him and be specific. It seems as though you already streesed your concerns about the text messages, so maybe run it by him one more time. Maybe setting aside one day a month, or week- whatever, will help....CAn you text him? If so, then start texting him..maybe he'll catch on and start reciprocating.
If all else fails, and this is the person he is....the one who thinks its your job to carry the weight of the relationship, taking innitiative to show appreciation and love, then maybe you need to reconsider who you are devoting your love, time and energy too. Is he deserving? Does he love you the same as you love him? Id he giving as much as he is taking?These are things you need to ask yourself. If the answer is no more than yes, maybe you should cut your losses and concentrate on someone who doesnt forget you exsist.
Best wishes and keep us updated,