I need serious advice!

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-14-2007
I need serious advice!
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Thu, 06-14-2007 - 2:11pm
Hey guys I need some serious adivce. I'm in a relationship with the father of my son. I'm 21 and he is 18 and will be 19 next month. He starts school next month to be a automotive mechanic. We've been through a lot in the past. I got pregnant when I was 18 and he was 16. I was 19 before our son was born who is currently 2 years old. Well we just recently got back together and I made a fake profile on Myspace to see if I could really trust him. That turned out fine and he did say he was taken. Well he started telling this person about our relationship. He said he feels more towards me as a really great friend then seeing me as his girlfriend, even though I am his girl friend and he does care for me deeply. Here is another thing he said "see im fixin to be 19 and i think that is too young for me to "settle" and i really dont want to but im afraid if i dont keep her close there will be some other guy raising my son and i cant stand the thought." Let me tell you that hurts. He's told me how he wants me and our son to move in with him when he gets his own place when he finishes school and get a good job and how he can't see me with anyone else, etc. So what do I do? Do I say anything about this or keep my mouth shut? A part of me wants to say something but I don't want him knowing I made a fake profile. I love this guy so much and can see us having a future together but it kills me that he said that. Please help!
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-13-2007
Thu, 06-14-2007 - 8:15pm

Hi tnsuperkitty,

As much as this sucks at least you know how he feels. Talk to him about his feelings and where things are going. See if he will open up. The two of you can raise your child together even if not in a relationship together.

I hope this helps.