I need some guidance/advice

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-24-2007
I need some guidance/advice
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Tue, 03-27-2007 - 8:53am

Looking for some more advice!

My b/f and i are in college, he had a one night stand 6 mos ago (which i did not learn about for several months after). At this stage, we are talking daily and he is working on winning back my trust. I have decided to give it a "try" and things are more positive than they were, but there is a long way to go.

I know HE needs to win back my trust, but its hard in a LDR. We will be together this summer but I am not sure how to best use our time to the maximum to see if this will work. I am not sure what I NEED to trust him again- it just not enough to get a phone call or two a night. He would do anything I ask at this point, but maybe I need some suggestions or direction. Any advice on what direction I turn to see if we can get past this together, aside from time?

Our relationship was good and it was strong- so i don't know what to do differently this time around. I don't want to waste either of our time so i want to take the time we have and use it as wisely as we can before we both have to go back to school in August. We have 3 months to work on this, any suggestions are appreciated!!

Thanks

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-05-2007
Tue, 03-27-2007 - 12:29pm

Hi lovergrl and welcome to the board,


When you are in a LDR it's hard to heal betrayal/trust issues since you don't get to spend a lot of time together. Does he know why he had a one-night stand?